Wednesday, February 16, 2011

MAD (originally posted on August 22, 2009)

I originally wrote this in 2009...I believe that when you are upset at someone, there is no point in staying mad because if anything were to happen to that person, you would always ask yourself 'Why didn't I tell them how I feel?', 'Why didn't I tell them how much they meant to me?'. In the light of Paul Frappier aka Bad News Brown's death, please show your loved ones how much you care and avoid unnecessary conflicts. R.I.P.

Original Post - Saturday, August 22, 2009 at 2:14am
I can't sleep so I figured i'd start things off by quoting part of Ne-yo's song "MAD"

“She’s staring at me, i’m sitting wondering what she’s thinking,
Nobody’s talking, cause talking just turns into screaming
And now, it’s i’m yelling over her, she’s yelling over me,
All that that means is neither of us are listening…
And what’s even worse, that we don’t even remember why we’re fighting…
So both of us are MAD for nothing…”

Have you guys ever been upset at someone over stupidness? It’s happened to me so many times but I realized one thing, it’s NEVER a good thing to go to bed upset at somebody. You wake up feeling mixed emotions, and question a lot of things instead of having talked it through. If it’s somebody you love/care for that you’re arguing with, anything can happen to them or you – and when a terrible tragedy happens, you wonder why you didn’t take the time to “talk” things through. So people, if you’re mad at anybody, make the effort to forgive them. Life is short, forgiving people is the key to moving forward.

For some odd reason I find myself listening to a lot of TUPAC lately. I was never fond of him, since I have always been a Biggie fan but I must admit, Tupac had certain songs that impressed me even though he always seemed to be an upset individual. For example, the song "Letter 2 My Unborn" is very emotional. He basically tells his unborn child how much he loves him/her and tells them about his life, and how they should avoid getting into trouble...

Another song that shows Tupac's softer side is "Keep Ya Head Up where you can hear Pac sing about respect towards females. And ya'll know i'm very big on RESPECT so the lyrics to that song blow me away each time I hear them, especially part of the first verse:

"You know it makes me unhappy
When brothas make babies, and leave a young mother to be unhappy
And since we all came from a woman
Got our name from a woman and our game from a woman
I wonder why we take from our women
Why we rape our women, do we hate our women?
I think it's time to kill for our women
Time to heal our women, be real to our women
And if we don't we'll have a race of babies
That will hate the ladies, that make the babies
And since a man can't make one
He has no right to tell a woman when and where to create one
So will the real men get up
I know you're fed up ladies, but keep your head up"

After listening to a few tunes from this man, I realized that I DO like some of his music and he wasn't so bad after all... *Don't get it twisted now, Biggie is still my fav*. But all this to say, even though Pac always seemed to be a 'mad' man, i'm sure deep down inside he had a good heart. And i'm sure that many weren't able to tell him how much they loved him before he was murdered. 

So think hard tonight about your loved ones, and if you're mad at someone for whatever the reason - TALK TO THEM and let them know how you feel before it's too late. You never know what tomorrow holds!

It's been a VERY long day so i'm finally heading to bed, goodnight my fellow readers...

Thursday, January 13, 2011

Jersey Shore: Bad Influence?

I was watching the Maury show a few days ago and felt the need to speak my mind about what I saw. I have always been very opinionated when it comes to teens living a wild lifestyle, but today took the cake.

A 13 year old girl named Cel'Andrea that was sleeping with men, drinking, smoking weed and doing whatever. She came on the show to flaunt her slutish ways when Maury asked her an interesting question regarding who she admired. The teen's answer was SNOOKI, one of the members of Jersey Shore. Are you serious??? She even had Snooki's famous poof and would actually look like a mini version of her.

So for those of you who have never seen the show Jersey Shore, it's an MTV reality show that has 8 housemates (4 male, 4 females) that basically spend their summer together while misbehaving all at the same time. There has been a lot of controversy on the show because of the fights, vulgarities, sex, tanning, Italian stereotypes and much more. Yet, Jersey Shore was ranked #1 on MTV’s channel lineup for 3 seasons in a row (mind you, season 3 just started!).

I’m the first one to admit that I actually enjoy watching this show because you never know what to expect but at the same time, after watching the Maury show – I’m not sure this show is suitable for teens. I was actually very disappointed when listening to Cel’Andrea speak about how she admires Snooki. It made me wonder if all the antics they pull on the show had a major effect on her. Apparently, Cel’Andrea was a good kid but drastically changed within the last year (hmmm, coincidence?)

On Jersey Shore, there is no surprise if you see people having sex (not literally, but you get the picture). The guys tend to always bring girls over after a long night of partying and sleep with a different girl every night. The girls who don’t make the cut are considered ‘grenades’. Some of the Jersey Shore girls are as promiscuous and either sleep with one of their housemates or try to find a fling for the night.

A teen watching this show can easily believe that what is done on the show is okay for them to do as well. NOT! I know that many parents blame television for their teens’ violence or sexual orientation or sexual partners; yet I do believe that as a parent, you have the obligation to sit your teen down and have a talk with them. How do you expect your teen to progress in life if you let them do whatever they want? If you can't even sit down with your teen, you might as well just tell your teen 'Hey honey, you can sleep with as many partners as you want and drink & party every night - it's okay' - you're basically throwing in the towel and not even trying to be a responsible parent.

Ironically, a BBM (BlackBerry Messenger) contact of mine posted a picture today of some children dressed up like the Jersey Shore cast and I felt the need to show you too.

When I saw this picture, my first impression was “Where the hell are your parents?”….very disturbing picture. I then decided to visit the site where the picture came from to see what was the purpose of the picture and this is what it reads:

“Instead of contacting child services like a responsible adult, JWoww decided to retweet this photo of three young, impressionable children dressed up like the cast of Jersey Shore. Then again, I probably shouldn’t rule out that this is actually Snooki considering she looks to be about the same height. No, wait, that’s not cool. Now I’m abusing children by equating them with over-tanned slam-pigs. Is everyone seeing what this show is doing to us? This used to be such a kind, loving site. A family place.” – courtesy of

All of this to say, is Jersey Shore a bad influence? In my opinion, it is! Even though MTV clearly shows a warning sign that it may not be suitable for certain ages, it won't stop many teens from watching the show. Common now, it's a trend on Twitter every now and then, so you know curiosity makes anybody want to see what the fuss is all about. I don't think the show should be banned but I do think MTV can do a better job at displaying certain scenes. I fully understand that MTV only cares about ratings but at the same time, they are also promoting an unhealthy lifestyle.

What's your opinion on this?

Saturday, January 1, 2011


As I sit here, I reminisce about the past year and remember the good and bad things that have happened in my life.

I won't do, as many of you do, and start creating a list of all the things that I would love to change in my life because you all know that most of you don't even complete that list. So instead, I am promising myself to become a better person by listening and paying more attention to what people say. I have a habit of zoning out after people start talking for too long.

I know that I can at least work on one thing per year, and know that I will be able to accomplish that without a problem.

I want to wish all of you out there a very sweeeeeeet 2011! May all of you succeed in everything you desire. And remember, you can accomplish anything in life as long as YOU believe in yourself! Only YOU can make that change! Now get moving! :)