Sunday, November 28, 2010

The Attention Whore

I debated about writing this blog because I know that some 'friends' and 'acquaintances' of mine might feel that this is directed at them, and to be quite honest - it probably is! Now keep in mind that this is dedicated towards the female attention whores in my life.

I'm sure you've all had a specific friend in time that has craved all the attention in the world whether you were at a highly publized event, a gathering of friends, a club, etc....and somehow you always wanted to shove a sock in their mouth wanting them to shut the fuck up, right?!

Throughout my life, I have met many people who I considered 'friends' and have also met alot of 'attention whores' in the process. Now if you're not sure what I consider an 'attention whore', it's quite simple - a person who craves and desires the attention and will basically do anything to get it. Yes, we've all encountered them but have you ever wondered why they are the way they are? I've come to realize that the main reason these people act the way they do is because THEY ARE INSECURE! The AW wants everybody to think that they are the coolest people out there when in reality, they are lonely people that can't handle the fear of being rejected.

It's sad to say but an AW (for short) has issues with not being the center of attention. Their insecurities are so deep that if they step into a room and don't get the 'all eyes on me' look - they feel as though something is wrong with them. Automatically, the feeling of not being acknowledged becomes somehow a sign of fear. They feel that what they are wearing looks akward, or maybe the makeup they put on is smudged, or maybe their shoes are not the right fit - all this to say that they think that something is wrong with them when in reality, people are simply busy having fun and just don't care to pay them in any mind.

If an AW could have a post it on their forehead stating "LOOK AT ME", they probably wouldn't even hesitate to do it. It's actually quite funny because all the AW's I have met are exactly the same. They want to meet everybody you know, and want to add them to every social media possible (Facebook, Twitter, etc) - not realizing that at the end of the day, they are simply one other entry in someone else's friendslist. Think about it, who cares how many friends you have on Facebook or Twitter? Who cares how many people you know?

It's not hard to come accross an AW, you can spot them a mile away. For example, if you walk into a club - look for the loudest bitch or jackass in the room and automatically you know they are 'the' attention whores of the night. Most of the time, they are popping bottles in an outerly LOUD fashion or buying drinks at the bar to anybody they know or 'hope' to get to know better. If they aren't doing so, then they are dancing in a outrageously sexual manner that makes any man want to grab their 'assets'. They could also be recognized by what they are wearing - tight skinned mini dress that shows an excessive amount of breasts or legs, or it can also be an outfit with excessively bright colors making Jessica Alba look as spontaneous as Lady Gaga. An AW can come close to not wearing any clothes at all in order to get the looks and stares they sooooo crave. Either way, they want you to whisper "LOOK AT HER" - and if they succeeded in doing that - then you, my friend, have fallen into the AW's trap.

I find it amusing when I look at celebrities and notice that they are deliberately becoming attention whore's because of the PR team behind them. Look at Kim Kardashian and Nicky Minaj's teams - do you really think they don't want people talking about how big their buttocks look? Or why Miley Cyrus' innocent look has turned out to look more like a tramp in the last few months? Common dude, you know there's a big industry behind the creation of an AW - the spotlight has to be on them in order to make 'mucho dinero'!

So is being an 'Attention Whore' a bad thing? I guess not, if you actually don't pay them any mind. Even though it's sometimes hard to ignore the attention whore's abnoxious behavior; think how deep down inside - they are insecure people that just want to be heard. Once you are able to ignore them, you will be able to just sit down and laugh. :)

Thursday, November 18, 2010

Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater?

I’ve heard the line so many times that I’ve lost count, yet I’ve always wondered if there was any truth to it. Could it be that once you cheat, you’re stuck in that pattern of behavior and will always be a cheater? Curious people want to know!

We’ve all been in relationships that have flourished and nurtured our hearts. Yet, we’ve also had relationships where you’ve come to wonder if your partner was cheating. Some say that once you’ve cheated, you become accustomed to the excitement of being caught and keep doing it for the thrill. Others say that once you cheat, there is always hope that you will change. I have asked myself that question on many occasions yet have still to find the answer.

I believe that once you cheat in a relationship, there is hope of mending it but, there are repercussions to everything you do. I have a few acquaintances that do the contrary…One of my acquaintances has a habit of jumping into relationships as often as she changes underwear. She claims “It’s love”, each and every time, yet we all know otherwise. Then we come to find out that she cheated on her man because he ‘pissed’ her off. The worse part about it is that she doesn’t even realize how dysfunctional she is. I mean, common…every relationship she jumps into, she has already programmed herself to cheat if he doesn’t behave the way she wants him to. If that was the case for all of us, damn, there would be no ‘real’ commitments anywhere and the world would spiral around only sex (which is not a bad idea but let’s be realistic).

I believe the reason people become accustomed to cheating on one partner after the other is because they just ‘can’. The fact of actually just committing the crime of cheating and getting away with it entices you to want to do it again. I know it sounds awkward but it’s the truth. If you let your partner do as they please, then eventually the thrill of ‘being’ with someone else has a possibility of happening. Don’t get me wrong, it doesn’t necessarily mean that because your partner cheated on a previous relationship, that he/she will do it again. It all comes down to how much you trust your partner and is ‘communication’ a big part of your relationship.

The real question is ‘how do you get over’ your partners’ past infidelities:


If you know that your partner has cheated on a previous partner in the past, and you wonder if it might happen again – this is where you should be communicating with your partner. You must set ground rules to what you and your partner want. DO NOT be afraid to discuss this because it is crucial to the outcome of the relationship. If you discuss this head on, you won’t feel that cat stuck in your throat wondering if your partner is laying in bed with someone else.


Once you’ve entered into a relationship, the key factor to making things work (apart from communication) is TRUST. You have to believe that wheat your partner is saying is the truth. If not, you’re simply falling into a burning fire which will eventually evaporate – and POOF - there goes your relationship!

I think if you cheat once, you might have the tendency of doing it again but in some cases, the person changes their views on life and decides to take the path for the greater good. It’s not because your partner has cheated on a previous relationship that he/she will do it again – yet, we will never get a definite answer to “once a cheater, always a cheater?”

Wednesday, November 10, 2010

Manners, hello???

A very quick thought...One thing that annoys me more than anything is people with no manners.

Why is it that when you are coming out of an elevator there is always an idiot that stands in front of the elevator assuming that nobody is going to come out of it? Or when you are coming out of the subway wagon, there are always a bunch of idiots that rush in without waiting for people to come out of it? What about the rude a$$holes that can't even say "thank you" when you open the door for them?

People used to be courteous for these types of things but I've noticed in the last year that this occurs on a daily basis. I mean, are people stupid?

I don't get it! Just felt like discussing this because it seems that more and more people have either never learned manners or have lost them altogether!

Tuesday, November 9, 2010

Sleeping With Your Ex’s Friend

Have you ever broken up with someone and thought of sleeping with their friend?

I was watching an episode of “Cheaters” a few weeks back; and there was a weird triangle going on between a woman, her boyfriend and the lover. Now for those of you who have never watched an episode of “Cheaters”, it’s a show that basically catches people cheating and have the person being cheated on confront their partner on TV. Sound like fun? Let’s proceed…So in this episode, the woman’s boyfriend is cheating on her with non other than her own brother’s wife. Now that got me thinking about the situation of sleeping with your ex’s friend…is it a bad thing?


I’m sure many of you have been in this situation…While you were still in a relationship with your ex, one of his/her friends started flirting with you discretely and made you feel like ‘something’ could possibly happen if you ever broke up with your partner. So once your partner actually becomes your ex – in my opinion, you are free to do whatever you want. There is a reason you are no longer with your ex, so if it’s his/her friend you are interested in, you have a right to get to know his/her friend. YET, there are repercussions to everything you do – so do not do something you will regret in the long run.


Want to get your ex back for hurting you? Why not get them back by doing something irrational? This is where the revenge situation comes to mind. If you sleep with your ex’s friend, you will finally feel like you succeeded in hurting them. In fact, this is not the case…I believe that if you do it out of revenge, the only person you are truly hurting is yourself. What makes you think that your ex’s friend will want to get in a relationship with you when you are capable of hurting your ex that way? Sheesh, you might just do it to them too!

Now this can also be seen in another way, because there are situations where your ex might have done something wrong to their own friend; and their friend basically just wants to hurt your ex back . So they’ll stoop to any level to get their form of revenge; and yes, that also means sleeping with you! Stupid is what stupid does! There are many things you have to think of before reacting out of anger.


Sometimes, it’s pretty simple on how things happen, there’s an attraction between you and your ex’s friend. This can get messy because you can be torn on hurting your ex if they find out that you’ve been with their friend, and/or torn because you don’t want to cause a rift between their friendship.

I think as long as there was no cheating involved prior to the attraction and it actually happened after you and your ex broke up; then you are free to do as you please.

I can go on for hours about this topic but I’ll keep it short and simple and hear what my readers have to say.

One word of advice for those of you that are thinking about sleeping with your ex’s friend; if you know that it might hurt them – Don’t do it unless you really couldn’t care less what he/she thinks! And if you decide to go through with it – DON’T GET CAUGHT! The worse thing that can happen is to be placed in the middle of a rivalry.

What’s your opinion on this?

Saturday, November 6, 2010

The New Beginning

I've been in the world of social media for a long time but decided over 6 months ago to kill most of my accounts in order to experience what life "is" without these sites. As you may all know, the world of social media is a scary one...can you say addiction? lol

Since I miss writing my notes on Facebook so much, I figured i'd expand my horizons and try blogging. I've seen alot of interesting blogs, and promise to not make this a redundant one. I want to express my feelings on relationships, friendships, trends and much much more...I'll do my best to drop some of my old 'thoughts' (this is what I call my notes, my blogs, my ideas, my whatever you want to call it. hehe) so you get more familiar with my work.

Feel free to drop me a line anytime :)

This is only the beginning...